Aliyah l’Chupah: A garden? A hall? Or a garden with a hall?

Before you move forward with your wedding plans it’s helpful if you know when it will be. Before you decide when it will be, you have to be sure you will have a place for it. Well, we are all very flexible and open and figuring that we will have limited options anyway, so we’ll see what’s available and take it. No, that’s not how it is going at all.

First of all, there are many more options than we imagined. Sometimes too many choices can make things even more complicated. Like this time. So we have made our other full-time job trecking around to the various hall options that are out there. and let me tell you, some of them are really ‘out there’.

And then of course you want to go to the hall when there is an actual wedding to see the place all done up and in action. Of course nobody’s wedding is going to be like your own. Some much more so than others… Like that French wedding at Binyanei Ha’uma that we checked out. They do the chuppah (ceremony) first, than the smorgasbord which lasts for an hour and a half. Why do they do that?

Then of course you have six different personalities, each with their own idea of what kind of place the wedding should be. If you’re lucky than two or three of the personalities are of similar opinion. And even if so, how does that help?

So here we are, no closer to sealing a deal with a hall, inking a date into the calendar, and carrying on with all the other vital wedding plans. So I have decided that it doesn’t matter to me. As long as I can work within my budget, they can get married at any hall and someone else can choose. Now I just have to wait for someone to choose…and for four other personalities to agree… Hmm…

About the Author

Laura Ben-David is the author of numerous articles and the book, MOVING UP: An Aliyah Journal, a memoir of her move to Israel. She has done public speaking about Israel and Aliyah all over the United States and Israel. Contact her at or follow her tweets at